12 Relationship Check-In Questions

A balanced approach that goes deeper than the quick check-in while still being manageable for regular use. Great for bi-weekly sessions.

Medium Check-In

20-25 minutes • Ideal for bi-weekly check-ins

This format strikes the perfect balance—more depth than a quick check-in, but not as comprehensive as a full deep-dive. It covers all the essential areas with a bit more room to explore each one.

Great for couples who want meaningful connection but need something that fits into a regular schedule. Use this every two weeks for consistent relationship maintenance.

12 Questions for Your Check-In

Connection & Appreciation

  • 1. What is one thing I did this week that made you feel loved?
  • 2. What is one thing you appreciate about our relationship right now?

Communication & Understanding

  • 3. How have you been feeling about our communication lately?
  • 4. Is there anything weighing on your mind that you haven't shared?
  • 5. Do you feel heard and understood when we disagree?

Support & Partnership

  • 6. How can I better support you in the coming week?
  • 7. How are we doing with managing our shared responsibilities?

Quality Time & Intimacy

  • 8. Are you feeling satisfied with the amount of quality time we spend together?
  • 9. What is one way we can bring more fun or playfulness into our relationship?
  • 10. How is our physical intimacy feeling for you right now?

Future & Goals

  • 11. What are our logistical priorities for the coming week?
  • 12. Do you feel we are aligned on our financial goals?

Tips for Medium Check-Ins

Allow for Deeper Answers

Unlike quick check-ins, give each question a bit more time. Let the conversation flow naturally.

Bi-Weekly Schedule

This format works great every two weeks. It's frequent enough to catch issues early, but gives you time to implement changes between sessions.

Follow Up on Previous Sessions

Since you're checking in bi-weekly, reference what you discussed last time. Did the actions you committed to happen?

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